Good Morning beautiful Minhions! I hope you had a great Thanksgiving with friends and family to the best of your ability. Food coma hit me harder than I expected this year and my favorite side dish has to be mac and cheese!! You are probably wondering what I will talk about today and it aligns with Thanksgiving. Bundle up in bed and grab your beverage of the day!
In the name Thanksgiving, we are urged to be thankful for the people in our lives like friends, family, significant others, or even ourselves in certain cases. I tend to assume rather than directly tell the people in my life that I’m thankful for their existence. There were instances where an argument occurs because I didn’t explicitly call or text them.
Now I’ve recently started listening to a podcast called “The Get Up” and today they were discussing about forgiveness. In this podcast, they were illustrating their definition of forgiveness, however one thing caught my attention. The main host repeated a quote from somewhere, mind you not word from word,
“Not forgiving someone is like drinking poison hoping the other person would die.”
Time and time again, we are reminded that hate will only be a burden on us. Forgiveness is not for the other, but for yourself because it allow the power to be in your hands again. A similar buddhist quote,
“Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”
Coincidentally, forgiveness was a topic of discussion in the living room between certain people as I was half-asleep from food coma. I recall the moments with people who felt hurt by my lack of vulnerability and assumption because both sides had to forgive each other for not understanding one another. In this case, someone I know can’t forgive the actions of an individual although they are striving to improve albeit slow and failing at times.
Do you judge a person’s character on their past wrongs or do you adhere to what you see in front of you?
Can a person who has done awful things in their past attempt to right their wrongs? YES. I believe this can happen because I’ve seen it. You can call me naive or optimistic, but understand that no one is perfect. For someone to judge my past compared to who I am today then you will never recognize me.
As my older cousin and I were just talking, he told me, “Tommy, you hate deep, but you love deeper.”
He described me as strong for being able to love deeply. He even used an example where if I was given an opportunity to love an individual who wronged me or hate them, he knew I would attempt to love them.
In hearing this, I immediately thought that I could only love deeply because someone else has shared their love too. I’m not perfect. There are things in my past that I failed to see my wrongs, but in recognizing these things allowed me to move forward. No one had explicitly forgave me, but I had to find a way to move forward knowing that there’s a possibility my past will come back to haunt me.
My character today is a result of countless of people’s forgiveness and love. Why can’t I be the one to do the same for someone else ultimately changing their life?